“Write about what you know, and what do you know better than your own secrets?” 
—Raymond Carver
“There was a time when I thought I loved my first wife more than life itself. But now I hate her guts. I do. How do you explain that? What happened to that love? What happened to it, is what I'd like to know. I wish someone could tell me.”
―Raymond Carver, What We Talk About When We Talk About Love